Talking on the phone is nerve-wracking for a lot of people. It’s even more so if your conversation partner happens to be someone you’re interested in, which can make it seem like an even bigger obstacle– but that’s just not the case! So, I have made a working model on how to talk on the phone with a girl (with free chat lines and real-life).
You might have had a past experience where talking with someone on the phone went poorly, but don’t let that discourage you from trying again. Next time you’re thinking about calling up a girl who catches your eye, here are some dos and don’ts to help make sure everything goes smoothly.
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Do & Don’t On Phone Flirting!
Have a reason for calling: Calling someone just because you want to be able to say, “I called!” afterward probably won’t cut it. Try and think of something that will make the call worth their time– maybe you’re asking her advice about which TV show or movie she’s currently into, or what new album is playing on her favorite radio station right now!
Advice: I suggest you use adult chat lines that are purposefully made to attract similar mindset men and women into a phone conversation. It is fun, easy, & reliable.
Pick a good time to call: Your first instinct might be to call them when they don’t have anything else going on (like late at night), but people are less likely to feel like talking when they’re tired out from work all day. You’ll fare better if you ask them during one of those nooner hours where everyone has had some sleep and some time to think about what they want to do.
Send a text first: If you’re nervous, consider sending her an initial message before the call. The advantage of texting is that it doesn’t put as much pressure on your nerves– no need for any Q&A or small talk! You can just say something like “Hey wanna chat?” and if she says yes then go ahead with the call later; if not, save yourself both from stress by saving this one for another day (or never).
Greet them warmly when you answer: It’s always good to make people feel welcomed and comfortable right off the bat, so use a greeting such as ‘hello’ instead of waiting until after asking how they are.
Find interesting points: Find something that interests them and mention it to keep the conversation going. If you’re not sure what they might be interested in, ask a few questions about their day or favorite activities– if someone has just mentioned they like rowing on weekends then maybe go out of your way to say “oh I can’t stand when my boat gets stuck at some dock.” This is also an opportunity for flirting!
Be a good listener: Listen to her responses before talking too much. You don’t want this one-sided; make sure you’ve got plenty of time with each other so she doesn’t feel ignored while waiting for your response!
Ber specific: Get straight to the point once discussing things that actually matter (as opposed to small talk). It’s a little nerve-wracking but it’ll keep conversations shorter and more meaningful.
Communication skills: Offer compliments, make her laugh, offer a sincere goodbye– good communication skills are key for any relationship!
Be open: The next time you’re on the phone with a girl, be open and honest. You’ll have a much better chance of getting her to like you if she knows that she can trust you.
Think about your tone: Make sure it’s sincere! If someone seems bored or disinterested as they talk to me I start feeling self-conscious and often ask them why they are talking in such an unhappy voice–maybe this isn’t the conversation for me? It helps when people seem genuinely interested in what we have to say; don’t fake it, but do consider their perspective before continuing any conversations with other people who might not enjoy your company.
One thing that is important while speaking over the phone with girls (or with anyone, really,) is to be mindful of your vocal tone. I know that it can feel like a huge effort sometimes–putting on an animated voice and peppering in all sorts of ‘ums’, ‘uhs’ and ”likes”– but the best thing you can do for yourself while talking with any person (especially girls) is to make sure they enjoy speaking with you!
Care her feelings: You should always think about how she feels before continuing conversations with other people who might not enjoy your company. It’s hard enough being spoken down to or ignored; when someone seems bored or disinterested as they talk to me I start feeling self-conscious and often ask them why they are talking in such an unhappy voice–maybe this isn’t a good time to chat.
How to toast a girl on phone sex – personal recommendations
When we are talking, I like to keep the conversation going by paying attention and not being afraid of silence or pauses in our conversation–it’s okay to be quiet sometimes. Being silent doesn’t mean you’re bored with them; it could just mean that they need a minute because what they said was difficult for them!
They might also want you to speak more while asking questions, so don’t worry about interrupting their thoughts if you have something else on your mind.
If she seems uninterested while speaking with me over the phone then I’d try letting her know before continuing conversations that she may feel better switching back into text messages instead: ‘Hey there _____! Do you prefer texting or would you rather talk on the phone?’ If she says no to texting, I’ll say something like: ‘Well we can chat over some text and then just call every now and again if you want!’
I usually start by asking them how their day is going. You may also ask her what she’s doing or planning for later in the week so that you have a conversation topic ready ahead of time. Sometimes it might be difficult for her to hear me properly depending on where I am at, but there are two apps called Viber and Google Hangouts that allow us to speak with each other without having any problems–it’s up to preference! With these apps, we could even video-chat with one another while talking which would make things a little more interesting.
I’ll try to make sure that I don’t talk too much about myself and instead find out what their interests are so that I can share my own story or experiences with them.
For example, if they say something like ‘I love going on hikes,’ then you could tell a funny hike-related story from your past! If she mentions an event in the future–like her birthday coming up next month–don’t hesitate to ask for her phone number so that you can send flowers or get tickets ahead of time.
You should also offer compliments during your conversation because it will help build rapport with one another which will hopefully lead to meeting each other at the end of all this!”
Most common mistakes guys make on phone sex:
- Talking too much about yourself and not finding out what their interests are
- Asking for her number right away before building rapport with one another first. Guys should try to get the girl’s phone number at the end of a call, or after he has already built some rapport with them if they had an interesting conversation.
- Calling during entirely inappropriate times such as late night, early morning, while she is working/in class, etc. If you have never talked on the phone before then it is best to start off slow by calling in between classes or around lunchtime when most people aren’t busy like they would be in the evening hours. This will also allow her more flexibility than she would otherwise have available to pick up the phone.
- Talking to the girl on speakerphone and in a group of friends, which is awkward for both parties. If you want to talk with her without others listening then try asking if it’s okay to call back later when they are home or not at work so that she can have some privacy.
Questions to ask women on phone sex:
- What are your interests?
- Who is the most important person in your life? Why?
- If we were to go on a date, where would you want us to go and what would you like it to be like?
- Do you have any siblings or pets that I should know about before our first meeting up/date together? You can also ask them how their day has been going so far if they live close by. These are just a few of many different types of questions that will help get her talking more than she would over text messages.
- What makes an interesting phone conversation: The best type of conversation usually features two people who use their time well enough that they don’t need awkward pauses to avoid the silence. It’s all about finding someone who has more than one topic of interest, and who doesn’t dominate the conversation.
- You should always have a few topics of conversation in mind for when you talk to someone on the phone. This will help keep your conversations interesting and engaging.
- If she’s someone that you’re interested in, it might be helpful to ask her about herself at first over the phone before diving into more personal questions. You’ll save yourself from getting too deep with her right away if this is just a friendly call.
How to build common ground with women:
Step1. Ask her about what she’s doing, how she feels, or anything that’ll help you see the world in a way that is similar to hers. Make sure not to just ask generic questions like ‘how are you?’ You want to talk with someone on the phone who has more than one topic of interest.
Step2. Keep an open mind during these conversations too so that you can hear their point of view.
Step3. The first call may be intimidating but don’t worry: use these tips and things should go smoothly!
How to avoid subjects on which you do not agree:
If you find that the conversation is going to a place that makes you uncomfortable, don’t be afraid to shift it. You can say something like ‘I’d love to talk about this more but I have somewhere I need to go’ or ‘Let’s chat some other time!’.
It might not make things easier, but if she seems disinterested in continuing and asks what you do for work please don’t tell her where your new company is located!
How to keep the conversation going:
- Listen carefully when they are talking! It will show them how invested you are in their thoughts. Focus on trying to understand where she is coming from and why instead of thinking of all the possible reasons why an argument could start.
- If you get the chance, ask them about themselves and show interest in what they have to say. This will make her feel good! It also lets your date know that she is more than just a way for you to pass time or talk about yourself without interruption.
How to make her laugh:
The key here is not to force it if laughter doesn’t come naturally from the conversation, but don’t be afraid of making jokes or using humor when appropriate. You can tell funny stories related back to things that are happening in their life, find out something new and interesting that interests them and then try telling an amusing story based on those facts… give compliments too! Everyone likes getting validation once in a while.
Conclusion
Phone flirting is easy with sex chat numbers where every girl eagerly waits to have phone sex but in real life, you must be put some effort into a phone conversation.